A New Light on Life

My blog has been pretty consistent with my life with Crohn’s disease along with the complications and obstacles us Crohnies endure. I haven’t posted much lately but I’ve been doing a lot of thinking. Turning in a different direction, I’ve been thinking about how our struggles can relate to others and also how worse life could really be. Even though I have been sick majority if not my whole life, I couldn’t be more thankful for the live I live and the people in it. I was standing in line at the physical therapist with one person in front of me. He was rambling on about how this is a big year for him and his family, his daughters were turning 13, 18, and 21 and graduations and college and so on. But then he started talking about himself and his biggest accomplishment this year was his five year mark of being cancer free. I stood there and beyond my control a smile came on my face. I got the chills, he was so happy and I was silently so happy for him. It kind of hits close to home.

My mom was diagnosed with thyroid cancer almost four years ago. You usually hear of people her age being diagnosed with breast cancer, ovarian cancer, and awful sounding things like that. This wasn’t something you heard of everyday… Or at least we hadn’t, up until then. She broke the news to my brother, my dad, and me first of course. I was standing in my kitchen just me and her because my brother was away at college at the time. I could see on her face something was wrong. Every horrible thought raced through my mind before she even said a word. Her eyes welded up and I didn’t hear anything other than the word “cancer”. I got the biggest pit in my stomach. You never think anything like this is going to happen to you, or even worse the ones you love the most.

The reaction from most people was “Well, if you have to have cancer that’s the best kind of cancer to have”. The disgusting thing about this statement is these people weren’t making a joke, they were serious. I don’t care what kind of cancer you have, NONE of it is good, and unbeknownst to them we soon later met someone who was fighting the same thing and is now losing her battle. It’s scary thing to think about. Thankfully having my experiences of treatment in Boston, my mom decided to go that route as well. This could have been the factor that has now allowed her to be cancer free. She had her thyroid along with a whole ton of lymph nodes out. She barely has a scar. Her surgeon was great. As the next few years go by and she undergoes radioactive treatment we looked to the good of it all. We dealt with it and moved on. Although she is “cancer free”, cancer is never really “gone”. It’s still an everyday worry.

Having experienced this gave me a new light on life. Although her battle with thyroid cancer was pretty quick, it’s still an everyday struggle. She now lives with the complications of living without a thyroid. Gaining weight, hot flashes, calcium problems, and many other side affects. Constantly switching medications and visiting many different doctors she now has to deal medically with herself along with two sick kids (my brother has Crohn’s too). I don’t know how she does it. She is an amazing mom and can juggle a million things at once. She hasn’t had an easy run her life and you’d never know it. Many people now a days, I hate to say it, but are so selfish, she is the most selfless person I know and I couldn’t be more proud to have her as my mom. I hope I can be even a little bit like her when I’m older.

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These past four years has made me realize how much life we have to live.. Or how much we potentially don’t have to live. Overall, I have little worries and try to live each day to the fullest. Being sick, this is tough. But you might not be alive to see tomorrow. Money is money and it’s here to spend. I’m not saying I’m not careful or irresponsible but my point is our bodies are unpredictable and do crazy things and living life is why we’re here. We’re here to do amazing things, love each other, argue, be support systems, and just be crazy! I challenge you, go out this week and do something you’ve never done before. I don’t care if you’re sick, if you have cancer, if you’re completely healthy, or if you have a broken leg. You can do it, and it’ll be worth it. Go embarrass yourself, and have a good time doing it. Be carefree for once. These are the kind of things that have kept me sane. Laughing and being crazy from time to time which my mom has been trying to teach me all my life.. it does wonders because as sick as you are, having a healthy spirit and mind is the most important thing. Laughter is the best medicine.

Listening to that man in the physical therapist office ramble on and talk about his kids and how excited he was, is really amazing. It’s exactly what I’m talking about here. I could tell he just had that zest for life. He was a cancer survivor and there’s nothing more rewarding than that. I might be sick, and there might not be a cure so yeah it’ll be a life long battle. But I’m here to live the crap out of this life, pun intended 😉 And you should too!

 

-xoMichelle

 

p.s. I was nominated for a blogging award my a fellow IBD blogger and my next post tomorrow will tell you more about that and show my appreciation! Thank you thank you thank you!!! ❤

 

And so it starts…

Well, down to 10mg of prednisone and the Stelara is officially out of my system. I’ve never in my life has this little medicine in my body. I guess which is good to kind of cleanse my system of it all but it’s also bad news bears. Today I was posted up in bed and on my couch sipping on chicken noodle soup and hot chocolate. Granted it’s freezing out so at least I kept warm (hah). But needless to say I’m feeling like crap and my insides are bleeding and a mess. I mean you wouldn’t know because “I look great!” Especially from the weight I’ve put on from this extended dose of prednisone. I registered at the hospital for the fecal transplant trial today and made my appointments. I’m due to get it on April 10th. I’m extremely nervous the colonoscopy is going to make me sick and not allow for the transplant to work. I’m hoping for the best but expecting the worse. This timeline kind of sucks for being sick though. The St. Patrick’s day parade near me is next Saturday and if I’m feeling this bad now I can’t even imagine how I’ll be feeling then and I do have plans to go to it with my girlfriends.

I haven’t had this lack of interest and motivation in a while. Some may call it depressed but I don’t like that word.. It’s a toxic word. I’m just under the weather not only physically but mentally as well. And I know it’s from not feeling good because the past week has been pretty exciting regarding my future and growing my dad’s business as a family business. I’ll expand more on that at some other point, when my mood is a little more chipper. You just get to the point where you don’t really care and just try to get through the day and onto the next. Actually now that I put it that way it sounds kind of pathetic. But that’s the life of a Crohnie from time to time. You have to expect these types of days. They’re unavoidable.

To make this situation worse I’m stuck here in my apartment pretty damn lonesome. Why, you ask? Okay maybe you didn’t ask but I was going to tell you anyways. The pup is at home with my parents. I left her there because my neighbor downstairs complained she barked too much when I wasn’t home. Even though they have to be lying because I take her everywhere with me or leave her at my parents when I’m gone for an extended period of time. So that’s a crock of bs. But anyways, I decided to leave her at home for a few days. And screw them downstairs I’m lonely so she’s coming back tomorrow. I’m just in a bad mood. I was feeling so good for a while. I definitely took advantage of that which was good. But, now I’m back to square one. Yeah, I have something treatment wise to look forward to but it’s not that promising. At least for the long term.

So, that’s all she wrote. Literally. Don’t have much to say tonight just wanted to get out my frustrations of being sick and update all my followers on how I’m doing… which is not good. Boooo. I’m starving and I can’t eat. Throwing myself a pity party then going to bed. Because we are allowed to do that once in a while. Goodnight my fellow Crohnies.

-xo Michelle